Feeling Liberated! 🙂
Finally I am at a stage in my life where I’m starting to get to grips with not being bothered about what others think of me. I feel free and it’s very liberating in every sense of the word, you see these days, I have the confidence to be fully myself without apology? I have realised that I can save myself a load of energy trying to fit in and be someone that I’m not. Actually its really none of my business what others think of me and at the end of the day, let’s face it, I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea, I totally get that.
We can worry so much about defining ourselves with regards to how we think other people ought to see us or perceive us. We can so easily take on a false identity, just from the labels we place upon ourselves, the roles we undertake and the activities we complete. I might see myself as a wife, a housekeeper, mother and a yoga teacher, however that external validation can impact and affect my personal personal growth and happiness. My true identity is shaped from so much more than that. Who I really am are my qualities and attributes, what I can offer to this world and what I really feel on the inside and that is what helps me to connect more fully with others.
The most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself and you’re own sense of self worth, that’s why I practice yoga and meditation because it deepens my awareness of myself and how I really feel on the inside, yoga helps me to understand my ‘self’ and to feel good about myself. If I ever go for a period of time without practicing awareness, sometimes I may see a dent in my emotional behaviour and well being which can knock my sense of feeling balanced, my self esteem and confidence. Yoga transforms the mindset in such a positive and dramatic way, she reminds you to focus on your breath, pay attention to yourself and bring your body, heart, mind and emotional balance back in to context. This helps us to feel whole again, literally collecting what was previously separated. At the end of the day, your emotional well-being depends on how you feel about you as a result of the relationship you have within yourself. In other words, you know that you are worthy of being treated with the utmost love and respect without trying to people please or be down trodden or be someone that you’re not, you have given yourself loving boundaries.
Can you lose the labels that you have hung around your neck and how you view yourself? Don’t get me wrong here, we all long to be noticed and for people to love us but do we have to have social acceptance or reassurance constantly? Of course we all do to a certain extent but can you also be happy in your own skin without worrying about the opinions and judgments of others? Do you do whatever makes your heart sing, are you guided by an inner feeling of what makes you feel alive? If you can be true to yourself, you are acknowledging and loving yourself fully. Being confident in yourself means that other people’s misconceptions and illusions cannot affect your sense of worth, then you don’t feel the need to try and fit in to ‘society’ – trying to fit in and looking for external recognition means that you’re not being honest with yourself.
These days all that matters to me is that my friends/ tribe resonate with me, they know the real me. They love me for my deep sense of self, the things that I’m passionate about and are important to me, my mistakes, my loyalty, my raucous laughter, my crap memory, my humour, my love of cheese and wine, my easy going attitude, my need to withdraw and be on my own sometimes, my honesty – ‘I am an open book’, my ability to love wholeheartedly and my spontaneity. In essence my faults and my core values and the sense of who I really am – and that’s all that counts in my book.
The wonderful thing is that since I have felt comfortable to be unashamedly myself, I also have found that I have so much love to give. Yep, I’m really happy to serve the world more love, that’s my gift. I have the capacity to both give and receive love and hopefully that can impact or inspire others and encourage them to feel more supported to be themselves too – even if it’s in the smallest way.
When you can stand up, rock out who you are, be proud and be yourself, the walls of the ego and the need for acceptance or acknowledgement by the world are pushed away and you make peace with yourself. Then you will find true contentment, you will also live a direct authentic, happy and liberating life of freedom.
Will the real you please stand up?! 😜
Shine on 💖
Love B xxx 💕